"In college I held the firm belief that through “comprehensive and accurate sex education” women and men can enjoy sex that is free from concern regarding unplanned pregnancies and disease. Through open dialogue regarding what turns us on, STD testing and effective birth control the couple can have a happy, exciting sex life. I taught women how to use condoms, I personally escorted women for STD testing after a spring break trip got a little crazy and I raised money to lower the cost for IUDs for poor women.
My theory was wrong for me and for the many couples in my social circle. After 15 years of marriage we didn’t have exciting, frequent sex. After the honeymoon period it became infrequent, recreational and self-serving. It was common among my friends to lament what went wrong in our marriages, why the men weren’t interested and how we could get them in the mood (or not in the mood as many women no longer wanted sex). Prior to his vasectomy my husband told me he’d divorce me if I had chosen to keep the baby after we learned I had miscarried. That was his right; we had both said we didn’t want kids. Sex was for pleasure, not for babies. We since divorced.
The “comprehensive and accurate sex education” that I sought 20 years ago is the Creighton method, not condoms. My yearning for sex that is free from concern about unplanned pregnancies and disease has not changed. The way to achieve it has.
My body is a gift, not a burden. Fertility is not something to loathe, to control. It is something to work with. The woman’s body is designed to achieve pregnancy, but not always. A condom is not necessary to prevent pregnancy. Knowledge of my fertile time is necessary. A husband excited, willing and engaged in sharing the responsibility is necessary. Being in a committed marriage is necessary. No daily hormone pill, no copper wire inserted into my body, no latex. Discussion, daily checking of my cycle, learning about me is necessary. The result is a happy, exciting sex life beyond what I ever imagined." ~A.W. Fort Worth, TX
Helps couples achieve and avoid pregnancy naturally
"Learning Creighton model has been such a blessing for so many reasons I could have never imagined. First, I have learned SO much about my body. It's almost embarrassing how little I knew. It has improved my marriage. Neither my husband nor I had ever realized that really the only time we had physical contact was in the bedroom. It's empowering. I was involved in an accident and had some unusual bleeding (which before I had learned Creighton I wouldn't have known that it was unusual because I had very irregular cycles) and instead of being blown off I was able to present them with my chart full of daily observations of my individual cycle and say "No, you need to look again." It has softened my husband's heart to being open to life. He was "done with 2 but happy with 3" and has recently said that maybe 4 would be perfect, and if God gives us more then that's ok too. And the beauty of it is that we can't afford another baby right now, but we know we want one and we have to tools to help us achieve and avoid that until finances ease up some. I'm not going to pretend it's the easiest thing my husband and I have ever done, but the payoff is so amazing and worth it that I wish this had been presented to me as an option much earlier on in life. " ~J.P. Houston, TX
Real answers for infertility
"My husband and I suffered with infertility and not being able to have a child. We were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We began seeing a fertility doctor. His only solution was an IUI (intrauterine insemination) or IVF ( in vitro fertilization). We had five IUIs, which resulted in only two pregnancies. Unfortunately both of these pregnancies ended with an early miscarriage. We were devastated. I began doing research and stumbled upon NaProtechnology. We began receiving instruction on the Creighton Model and seeing a doctor that practices NaPro. He was interested in finding out why we were not getting pregnant. I decided to do an exploratory surgery. Although I had never had any symptoms, the doctor found endometriosis. He removed all of it. It was great to have someone trying to find out the real reason we were not getting pregnant. After the surgery we decided to relax, not stress and let things happen naturally. About 7 months later we got pregnant! As of now, I am 22 weeks!" ~S.C. Fort Worth, TX